Movies and TV shows make divorce seem like a bombastic affair, with one side “winning” over the other. In truth, many divorces are not contested at all and involve a peaceful separation of people and an equitable division of assets. If this sounds more like your situation, read on to discover your options for a peaceful divorce.
Mediation, Not Litigation
Litigation is the step during which the fangs come out and each side is forced to fight for their assets. Avoid this process altogether and opt for mediation instead of litigation. This requires a collaborative approach to divorce, working with your spouse and a mediator to determine fair compromises.
Mediation has several benefits other than a lack of contention, too. For instance:
- Attorney fees are usually higher in litigation.
- You, your partner, and a custody professional decide what’s best for your children, rather than the court.
- All your conversations stay confidential.
- You can stay on your own timeline and don’t need to work within the court’s schedule.
- Both parties are more likely to get what they want.
Determine Your Goals
A peaceful divorce does not require you to concede every point. In fact, you should determine your goals before the divorce process begins, and you should adhere to them. Consider your personal goals as well as financial goals to ensure you’re well taken care of after the proceedings have finished.
Get Support
Even a peaceful divorce is stressful. You should not go through this process alone, so we highly recommend you seek out a few professionals to guide you through your divorce. A mediator will help keep you and your spouse focused on mutual agreements, a divorce consultant will help you get what you want in a compromise, and a therapist will assist you mentally and emotionally.
Depending on your situation, you may also want to work with a custody professional so you can be assured that you’re keeping your children’s best interests as a high priority.
Now that you know your options for a more peaceful divorce, work with your spouse and come to a compromise that works for everyone.
